My Wife Does Not Want Me

Question :

I am a young man married to a young woman who is related to me. Our marriage did not last more than two years before problems and hostile encounters began with her family. Then things returned to normal for a while. Then (the problems) returned as before. During the passing of these days, Allah blessed us with a child while I was absent. When I returned to take her back, her father and some of her family members accepted, but I found my wife - whom I had taken care of in the most perfect manner and complete wisdom - had changed as a result of the influence of her family. So I left her for more than a year hoping that she would return to her senses. On many occasions I tried to reach her, but without achieving any positive result. I now consider that it is better to part from her permanently, but when I tried to send her the divorce paper, I was asked for the marriage contract, but it is not officially recorded, and it has been lost for two years.
I am now at a loss; what should I do?

Answer:

We advise you to keep attempting reconciliation, and to reunite with her. You should introduce mediators from your family and hers in order to reach an agreement between you. But when you despair of reaching a settlement, and think that parting is necessary, there is no objection to that, and there is no requirement for you to produce the marriage contract document. Instead, simply inform them that their daughter is divorced from you, and it is for them to give her in marriage to whomsoever they wish. And it is better to write the divorce at the Islamic Law Court and send them the divorce document. As for the marriage document which was lost, if you are in need of it, approach the nearest Court to you with a request for confirmation of the marriage and bring witnesses to it, and in this way, you may get a document confirming the marriage. And Allah is the Granter of success.

Source:
Ibn Jibreen
Fatawa Islamiyah, Vol. 5 Pages 388-389