Living Honourably with Spouse

Question :

I am a married woman since 25 years ago. I have many sons and daughters, and I have a lot of problems with my husband. He often humiliate me before my kids and my relatives, whether near relatives or far ones. And he never respects me for no reason that makes me relieved when he is not at home. Even though this man prays and fears Allah. Please guide me to the right path, may Allah rewards you. with good.

Answer:

What is incumbent upon you is to be patient and advise your husband in whichever way is best and to remind him of Allah and the hereafter, may be he responds and come to his senses and return to truthfulness and recant his mal behavior. In case he did not change he will harvest his sins and you will get reward for being patient and for tolerating all the harm he has done to you. It is also legalized for you to supplicate for him during your prayers as well as at other times that Allah will guide him to what is right and to bestow on him good manners and to protect you from his evil and the evil of other people.

It is incumbent upon you to judge yourself and to follow the right path of religion and to turn to Allah in repentance Glorified be He from whatever sins you did against Allah and against your husband and against others, for who knows, it could be because of your sins that Allah turned him against you, according to the Words of Allah- Glorified be He:
"And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of what your hands have earned. And He pardons much."

There is no harm if you requested from his father or his mother or his elder brother or those whom he respect from the relatives or the neighbors to advise your husband and to urge him to live honorably with you following Allah command He- Glorified be
"and live with them honourably."

And the Words of Him, Most Glorified:
"And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them."

Source:
Ibn Baz
Fatawa Islamiyah, Vol. 5 Pages 371-372