I Stopped Visiting My Relatives For Fear of Trouble
Question :
I have relatives that I want to visit - especially since the Prophet ﷺ ordered us to do so but I don't because when I go there, the women who are Muharamaat (i.e.,whom I am not allowed to be alone with)] shake my hand.
They don't know that it is unlawful for a man to shake a woman's hand. Is it wrong for me to stop going, especially since I cannot tell them that it is unlawful?
Answer:
Rather you are required to tell them and their husbands that this practice is unlawful and to explain to them that they are not allowed to shake hands with non-Mahram males. At the same time, don't stop visiting them. When the women there extend their hands to you, don't extend yours to them; moreover, order them to wear the Hijab, and cover their faces and hair, and not to shake hands with non-Mahram men. If you visit them and advise them, you have accomplished two things:
you have established good relations with your relatives and you have taught them the truth.
As for stopping your visits because of the wrong you see, I don't concur. It is better for you to accomplish both orders: to visit them and to call them to the truth.
Source:
Ibn Jibreen
Fatawa Islamiyah, Vol. 7 Page 315
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