First Convince Your Father, then Marry Her

Question :

I am a young man who lives in a nomadic tribe. I have chosen a girl to marry, and my choice was based upon her religion and her knowledge. However, my father has refused because of our local custom, a custom that prohibits the following: because she is from another area, she does not speak our local dialect. If I go against his order and marry her, am I undutiful to him?

Answer:

First try to convince your father that this is the right girl for you, in terms of your desire for her, in terms of her religion and her knowledge. If he isn't convinced, try to find someone else who not only pleases you, but also is a satisfactory choice to your father. If, however, you feel that you will be delayed or that you will find no other satisfactory girl, you can marry this one.

Source:
Ibn Jibreen
Fatawa Islamiyah, Vol. 7 Page 319

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